Understanding your body is the first step to enjoying your sexuality

Boobs confidence (From Peanut to Watermelon)

Just as vaginas come in different sizes, boobs also come in different sizes, some have it small, some have it, round, some have it droopy, some have it big, some even have it extra-large; from peanut to watermelon. But be sure to know that no matter the size or shape of your boobs, you are still as beautiful, so rise and be confident about it because there are different ways to rock your boobs. I’m not saying walk naked though.


Menstrual Cycle

Your menstrual cycle is the time from the first day of your period to the first day of your next period. Your menstrual flow on the other hand usually lasts 3 to 7 days, but it may be slightly shorter or longer. A normal menstrual cycle can be as short as 21 days or longer than 35 days. For most women, their menstrual cycle is between 25-30 days long, but it’s not unusual for the number of days in each cycle to vary from month to month.

There are many reasons your menstrual cycle may change, they include; illness, various medications, over-exercising, poor nutrition, stress, and sudden weight gain or loss.


How to calculate the length of your menstrual cycle

To calculate the length of your menstrual cycle, count the total number of days from the first day of your period in a month to the last day before the next period begins. For example, Anita saw her menstrual period/flow on the 1st of October to the 5th of October and she saw her next period on the 31st of October.  The total number of days from the 1st to the 30th (which is the last day before 31st) is 30days. So, Anita’s menstrual cycle for October is 30days. But Anita will need to do this also in November and December to be sure she has a 30 days menstrual cycle.



Female sex organs

At this stage also, our bodies start to develop, getting set for making babies. This is the organ needed to make babies.

Most ladies don’t know about the different holes in their private region. There is the urethra hole aka the pee hole where the urine comes out from, there is the vagina hole where babies come out from and where the penis enters during sex and there is the anal hole or the butt hole where feces pass out.

    • Vagina: It is a small passageway leading out of the uterus. Your menstrual flow leaves your body through the vagina.
    • Urethra: It is the tube that leads from the bladder and transports and discharges urine outside the body. It is located above the vaginal opening. The urethra in ladies is shorter than that in guys.  
    • Labia minora: the two small inner folds of skin with the shape of lips that form the margin of the vagina
    • Labia majora: the two outer folds of skin that lie on either side of the vagina opening.
    • Clitoris: It is located in front of the urethra. It is a sensitive external organ that is capable of being erect
    • Anus: the opening at the end of the alimentary canal through which solid waste matter leaves the body.
    • Hymen: a thin membrane that surrounds the opening to the vagina. Hymens can come in different shapes.




Do you know not all ladies bleed the first time they have sex? Well, this is true. Stick around to find out more.

What does the hymen look like?

One of the most important things you should know about hymens is that it varies from one lady to another; there are four types of hymen shapes:

– Normal hymen: This is the most common hymen type among women, in which it takes the shape of a half-moon covering the vagina partially.

– Microperforated hymen: That’s when the hymen covers the whole vagina with only a small opening.

– Septate hymen: The type of hymen where the membrane has two openings instead of one.

Imperforate hymen: An imperforate hymen is a thin membrane that completely covers the opening to the vagina. It is mostly diagnosed when a lady enters puberty and menstrual blood cannot flow out of the vagina causing the blood to go up into the vagina which often develops into an abdominal mass and abdominal and/or back pain. The treatment for an imperforate hymen is minor surgery to remove the extra hymenal tissue and create a normal sized vaginal opening so that menstrual blood can flow out of the vagina. 

Do all women have hymens?

No, although most women are born with hymens, there is a small percentage of females who are born without hymens. What is also worthy to note is that not all women bleed the first time they have sex.

What causes a hymen to break?

Different reasons, meaning it doesn’t “break” the first time of having sex. People usually refer to the partial rapture of a hymen when having sex for the first time as breaking, but let us clarify something here.

Hymens have an elastic nature and they vary in their elasticity from one woman to another, which means that the breakage process also differs. Also, the hymen breakage during the first intercourse would highly depend on the nature of it, and if it has worn out due to other factors.

In case the hymen wasn’t worn out, and has average or low elasticity, part of it raptures during intercourse and causes bleeding. There are types of hymens which are very fragile, so they wear out very easily, whether it’s from age or aggressive movements or sports (gymnastics, horse riding, extreme falls targeting the lower part of your body, etc…)

There is also a type of hymen which is extremely elastic. This type can be stretched when having sex without breaking if there is a sufficient opening. If the opening is small, that means you will not be able to have sex unless having minor surgery to remove part of the hymen.

Does a woman bleed only when the hymen breaks?

This is one of the most common misconceptions. A woman can bleed during her first intercourse due to several reasons:

  1. If she isn’t aroused and lubricated enough during penetration, causing tearing and abrasion to the tissue of a woman’s vulva, which leads to bleeding.
  2. When the man is too rough during sex, which causes the tearing of the tissue inside a woman’s vulva.
  3. Due to medical infections, where sexually transmitted infections could cause bleeding.
  4. As a result of hymen breakage.

In conclusion, this is the basic information you need to know about hymens. Virginity is not about a piece of membrane that wears off with time or a few drops of blood that could be the result of rough intercourse. It is the mutual trust between two people.


Keeping Clean

  • Use warm water to wash your vagina regularly
  • When cleaning up after the toilet, always wipe from front to back
  • Change under wears regularly, ensure to wash them before use
  • Avoid using feminine hygiene products to keep down there clean as they only expose you to risk of infection. The vagina washes in the form of normal vagina discharge
  • Wear only clean dry cotton underwears
  • Don’t make a habit of scratching your vagina
  • Don’t reuse your sanitary pads or tampons
  • Avoid sleeping with underpants, let air enter your vagina at night
  • Use soft toilet tissue and if possible, use water to wash up instead after the toilet