Being in a relationship with Segun was so far the best thing that happened to me last year. We did all the things that couples who are in love do except sex; we both agreed to wait. After 6 months, I was sure that I was in the right relationship, so when Segun asked if our wait could come to an end, I didn’t hesitate. But something strange happened while we were making plans; yes, we planned, Segun is a romantic and we both wanted our first time together to be perfect.
A week before our get-away, Segun told me to meet up with him at the hospital close to his office, he sounded so calm on the phone plus he assured me that everything was okay. I got to the hospital and found out that my trusted boyfriend wanted me to do an HIV test before having sex with me! I was so angry, at that point, I could only think of two things: Segun is either cheating, or he thinks I have been sleeping around. I stormed out of the hospital and told him never to call me again.
3 months later, I met Ade and within a few weeks he was able to take my mind off Segun. This time, it was different, there was no waiting, because the last time was a waste of time and in my opinion, Segun was plain disrespectful. Ade was ‘normal’ he did not ask me to do an HIV test, and most times, he didn’t use a condom whenever we have sex and I let him because I trusted him .
Today makes it 7 months since I broke up with Segun and four months into my relationship with Ade. I am at a health seminar that my friend made me register for and one of the things they talked about was getting tested. Initially, I was so uncomfortable, but the other emotions that followed were mortification, regret and some other emotions that I can’t put into words. The speaker mentioned that Nigeria has the second largest HIV epidemic in the world and that most people living with HIV/AIDS are unaware of their status. He stated fear, pride, ignorance and inadequate counselling centres as some of the reasons why Nigerians are not getting tested.
Close to the end of his lecture, some condoms branded Fiesta was given to all those present and the speaker mentioned that “contrary to popular belief, condoms do not reduce pleasure, they actually make sex more interesting. On a final note, He stated that people can live healthy lives even if they are HIV positive, but it starts with shunning ignorance, and knowing their status by getting tested.
As I sit at the seminar counselling area, waiting to hear my test result, I realize that Segun wanted the best for both of us and my new boyfriend Ade is as ignorant as I used to be. I may have made a mistake by leaving a good guy like Segun, but going forward with Ade, I will choose the smart life, and that means, i won’t stop preventing HIV using these Fiesta condoms during sex. And if any other guy comes along, he must get tested even before we kiss.
HAPPY WORLD AIDS DAY, Use a condom and always know your status and t