Valentine’s day is here, and the pressure is high. As young girls expect chocolates and perfume gifts, the older girls hope and expect to get a ring. Yes, so many people get engaged on valentine’s day, but whether the proposal leads to a wedding is story for another day. Apart from the singlets and boxers’ gifts, perfumes, jewelry and romantic dinners that symbolize Valentine’s Day, one highlight of the day is sex, good sex. Making the time for totally hot sex can be a great way to show your partner how much you care for and appreciate them.
If you’re spending Valentine’s Day with someone, chances are you’ve already entered the sex zone. Below are some ideas to add spice and spark up your Valentine’s day sex.
Plan a sex position extravaganza.
A wonderful way to prolong sex is to switch up your positions. You and your partner can browse sex position ideas here, and if your partner doesn’t usually last long, you can gift him with a box of Fiesta prolong condom. On Valentine’s Day night, review your lists of sex positions together and pick five that you both want to try.
Spending the day perusing images of hot positions, and then cuddling close as you and your partner select the ones you want to do together, will make sure the sexual tension is so high that you’ll basically rip each other’s clothes off.
Go lingerie shopping together, and then stage a fashion show.
Yes, you can close early from work or school and go lingerie shopping together. Lingerie shops are sexy places — the mere act of walking into one with your partner and browsing endless rows of silk and lace is basically foreplay. Rather than purchasing Valentine’s Day lingerie ahead of time to surprise your partner, use the money you’d spend on an expensive dinner together to make lingerie shopping the date itself.
When you’ve selected your goodies and checked out, head home for the real show. Have your partner sit on the bed while you visually tease them by putting on a fashion show to a Valentine’s Day playlist. And of course, since this is meant to tease things out, your partner has to refrain from touching you — kissing isn’t even allowed until you’ve modeled each new outfit.
Save your favorite lingerie set for last, but don’t take it off. People have sex naked all the time, so celebrate the holiday by keeping your lingerie on, simply pulling panties to the side for both oral and penetrative sex.
Plan a sexy staycation.
When brainstorming Valentine’s Day date ideas that are anything but boring, a weekend getaway sounds pretty ideal, but it’s definitely not necessary if you’re looking for a long, drawn-out sexual experience.
When planning for a sex marathon, isolation is your best friend. Rather than escape to the woods or the beach, stay in on Valentine’s Day. If you can afford it, look out for deals on hotel rooms, and rent a room just for one night. When you and your partner are alone in a quiet cozy hotel room, there’s nothing to do but make love. Multiple times, in multiple places while experimenting on the different exciting variants of Fiesta condom.
But this experience is definitely replicable at home, as long as you and your partner commit to blocking off time (and maybe pre-ordering some pizza for when you’re taking breaks).
Eat dessert off your partner.
When looking for a night that prioritizes pleasure over tradition, skip the restaurant and use one another’s bodies to enjoy dessert if you will be using condoms, you want to try Fiesta chocolate or Fiesta Strawberry. These condoms come flavored and will definitely add spice to your hot sex.
Give an erotic massage.
While going out for a professional couple’s massage is a wonderful Valentine’s Day date idea, for a more intimate sex-based evening (and to save some cash), give each other erotic massages. I don’t mean a simple shoulder rub after a long day of work — I’m talking about a full-blown massage (in which happy endings are encouraged).
Light candles and invest in aroma therapeutic massage oil. Start like a professional masseuse and work your lover’s back, shoulders, arms, and legs, and then slowly move on to their genitals, communicating as you go.
While giving a happy ending massage focuses on your partner, don’t forget to enjoy the thrill of it for yourself.
Act out your role-play fantasies.
From doctor/patient to housemaid, role-playing on Valentine’s Day is the perfect way to step out of your norms and turn your night into hours of eroticism.
Buy costumes to help get into character, and if acting isn’t your thing, you can watch a romantic movie to help yourself relax
Use a blindfold.
Blindfolding is a simple way to incorporate sensory deprivation into your play, and it adds a fun power dynamic: The blindfolded partner can be dominated by the one doing the blindfolding (with verbal consent, of course). And the great thing about blindfolding is that you don’t actually have to use a designated blindfold — any tie or scarf you have lying around will do the trick.
When it comes to planning for sex with blindfolds, the responsibility lies with the partner assuming the dominant role (the one who isn’t blindfolded). After discussing boundaries with their partner, that person can plan all of the ways they’d like to tease and tantalize their partner as their eyes are covered. My suggestion? Make them wait. Don’t give into direct genital stimulation until they’re literally squirming and begging.
Experiment with delaying orgasm.
While orgasms may provide an awesome high, they have their downsides. Mainly, if one partner comes before the other, it’s easy for things to wind down fairly quickly. This is why edging, or purposely delaying orgasms, can be a fun way to mix things up and extend sex. Practicing edging is simple. Once you and/or your partner comes close to orgasm, you stop stimulation right before it actually happens. Then, after a pause, you resume the stimulation.
Sound painful? It kind of is — but in the best way. Simply pausing right before you or your partner reaches orgasms makes things extra exciting. By the time you or your partner is finally allowed to come, the tension will be so high that the resulting orgasm is Valentine’s Day-level explosive.
Tease each other all day long.
Some might say that anticipation is the best part of sex, so make your partner wait for it all night with gentle (and not-so-gentle teasing). Start the day off with a few sexy texts that will make sure you’re thinking about what you plan to do to each other all day. If you are not ready for a pregnancy and have had your tests done to rule out any sexually transmitted diseases, you can send him a picture of POSTPILL contraceptive to show that you are ready for some skin to skin hot sex.
Switch it up.
If there’s a clearly established top and bottom in your relationship, take Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to shake things up. If you’re the partner who’s usually more submissive, be the one to initiate sex. Seeing you want it so badly might just make your partner weak. If you’re the more dominant partner, let your bae take the lead. You might find that you like being ravished.
Happy Valentine’s Day. #BeSharp