Being pregnant and parents for the first time was an awesome experience for my husband and I, but like they say, you can’t be 100% prepared. Our baby is 5 months old now, but it took a lot of changes to get here. It started with body changes, it seemed like my breasts were growing afresh, my face had acne that looked like chin-chin was being fried on it daily and the surges of hormones! I still find it difficult to believe how much a woman’s body and mind is transformed by them.
Finally, my princess was born, and all the pregnancy wonders disappeared, I wish. No! they didn’t all disappear, some stuck around for a while.
At this point, I started to experience the phase 2 of the gist I had been hearing about. The first 2 months was easier, my mother and my mother in-law were around for 1 month each and then they had to leave; they were missing their husbands and businesses. I had to learn to adjust my life, which was now 85% Princess, and 15% hubby. Are you wondering where I am in the equation?
For my husband, this Math was wrong on all levels. Let me tell you a little bit about my husband, Fidelis Ace, he’s handsome, hardworking, caring and the shyest person I have ever met-but not with me. I would also chip in a little secret at this point, I had not had sex with my husband for over 2 months, I was able to get away with it because my husband could not even kiss me in front of his mother, not to talk of mine. Now, they are back home, and I had no excuse.
Well I did have a lot of excuses, like how would sex feel like after delivery? Everything has changed down there, What If Princess starts crying while we are in the act? What if I get pregnant? We had sex without protection before princess was born and after. Most importantly, I would be resuming back to work in a month’s time, and I have no idea how to manage leaving my baby with someone else, my husband’s incessant need to have sex ( I would say he has been to patient, but what do I do?) and being efficient at work.
I tried sharing some of these excuses with my hubby, all he heard was, I don’t plan to have sex with him until princess is one. The next step was a 2 weeks malice, and plenty of elderly masculine tantrums- No woman can handle a Princess and this at the same time, I had to fix it!
Based on my past experiences, I have come to hate chatting and familiarizing with neighbours, but 4 days to my resumption, I did. I was coming back from the market with Princess and saw one of my neighbours, Mrs Chineye, by the gate. She has 3 beautiful kids, ages 7, 5, and 3 and she does not plan to have more. I know this because I heard her say to the gate-man on different occasions, “This na my last bus stop, he better makes you join me! Even if you born these children reach 8, we no go increase your salary”
All these info prompted me to talk to her, though I started with my usual greeting, I noticed my lips was saying more. Mrs Chineye noticed that our conversation may take a while, so she offered that her sitting room and I reluctantly agreed.
I gave her a micro download of the problem and she provided me with a solution called Lydia IUD. “You see those 3 coconut heads, I used Lydia IUD to space them, when you know that your husband like this thing, you get borrow yourself brain”
“But come to think of it, doctors discuss family planning options with mothers after delivery, didn’t your doctor do that?”
“My doctor told me it is too early for me to do family planning since it is my first and that I should use condom with my husband for now.”
“That one na dock, I will call my doctor now and book an appointment for you first thing tomorrow morning”
I thanked Mrs Chineye and left for my flat upstairs.
The next Day, I visited Mrs Chineye’s doctor and she counselled me on other methods including Lydia IUD. After we both weighed the options, I opted for Lydia IUD. One, because it is non-hormonal, I can take it out anytime I like, and it has a variant for new mothers like me.
With that sorted, I went home to Totori Mr. Felix Ace, to come back to me, his ride or die